Guilt and shame, we all experience these from time to time. Guilt and shame can result in people feeling depressed and emotionally destructive. So the question is: how do we deal with guilt and shame? What are both healthy and natural ways of dealing with these emotions?
But wait, what is the difference between guilt and shame?
Guilt is a feeling of psychological discomfort, a sort of aiding tool to allow us to gauge our moral compass and the values to which we hold. Guilt can be thought of as a positive and guiding feature some time as well.
Shame is a bit more complicated and is definitely not helpful nor productive. People who feel shame feel they are deeply flawed from the inside, sometimes unworthy to receive love or a true connection.
So how do I overcome feelings of guilt and shame?
Of course, there is no easy answer to this question, as every person experiencing guilt or shame may be due to different reasons. However, here are some general tips that you can really help and you can start applying to your life today.
1.Talk to others about your shame
The idea of bringing up a topic that is bothering you into the light by talking to other people about it is always a good idea. Shame is no different, by talking to others and allowing them to empathize will show you that your initial assumptions that you are “flawed” are wrong!
2.Spot your shame-inducing triggers
Triggers are different for everyone. One person might feel shame when they are being yelled at. Another might feel shame when being judged by other people. However, when we are able to spot our triggers we are capable of predicting, observing and ultimately treating them.
Where can I Find a Psychotherapist That can Help me Deal With Shame?
Here at The Beach Psychotherapy, we are well equipped to work together to improve your state of mind. Together, we talk and learn how you can improve the way you deal and interpret shame. Please feel free to contact Spring Berriman at 647-296-9235 to set aside some time to talk so that you too can find the right therapist.