Humans are very complex in the ways we both think and feel. We are emotional creatures, whether it is a good emotion such as compassion or a negative one such as shame. One thing is for sure, we could all benefit from cognitively observing how we process and handle our emotional states. In this article, we will take a closer look at shame as a human condition.
First of all, what is shame?
Sometimes, in order to understand something, all we really need is a clear and concise definition.
Shame is defined as a feeling of a deep, innate flaw, a feeling that makes you think that you are unworthy of companionship, compassion, and love.
Shame vs guilt – the biggest misconception
Additionally, the biggest misconception about shame is that it is a synonym for guilt. It definitely isn’t and here is why: Guilt is a feeling of psychological discomfort, a sort of aiding tool to allow us to gauge our moral compass and the values to which we hold. Guilt can be thought of as a positive and guiding feature some time as well.
If you want to find out more about Shame vs Guilt, we also have an article on that!
So what can we do to address and treat shame as a human condition?
Just like any emotional response, there is always a cause or a source. A good approach to treating shame is to take a deep look into what makes you feel shame in the first place. For example: if you feel shame when speaking to a large crowd of people. You’ve essentially already identified the trigger, and the next thing to do is to figure out what you can do to boost your capabilities to speak to large crowds for example: speaking to yourself in the mirror or one on one with another person.
Where can I Find a Psychotherapist That can Help me Deal With Shame?
Here at The Beach Psychotherapy, we are well equipped to work together to improve your state of mind. Together, we talk and learn about shame as a human condition and to improve the way you deal and interpret shame. Please feel free to contact Spring Berriman at 647-296-9235 to set aside some time to talk so that you too can find the right therapist.